How To Crush Negativity And Achieve Success

You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. ~ Marcus Aurelius

Most of us are incredibly hard on ourselves when we think about our flaws or shortcomings and let’s face it we are all perfectly imperfect.

If you find yourself stuck in some struggle in life that you know can be solved but you just don’t know where to begin.

If you fear the consequences of getting it wrong, because after all, you’ve got it wrong before.

If you’ve lost faith in yourself, remember this: you will find talent, you will find genius you will find grit, wherever you look for it.

Don’t allow negativity to crush your dreams.

Don’t doubt your potential.

Don’t compare yourself to those who you think are doing much better at life than you.

There’s always someone who can do something better than we can, don’t allow it to distort the view you have of yourself.

It’s time to practice a little self-compassion.

1. Speak kindly

We know cars that aren’t maintained eventually become wrecks and homes that aren’t taken care of become run down, and the same is true of you. Maintain kind thoughts and loving feelings towards yourself.

Words have the power to build you up or tear you down.

Stop allowing the critical voice in your mind to control your life.  As you keep your mind focused on peace and harmony you quiet your inner critic.

Give yourself permission to ignore the voice in your head when it’s not speaking kindly. Give yourself permission to defy your inner critic and dream big, risk new ways of living, go after what you want, and become unstoppable.

Remember your thoughts are always trying to manifest themselves so the next time negativity speaks, reframe what it has to say.

When you hear it can’t be done, at least not by you. Remind yourself it’s just the inner critic wanting control. Think back to when something went well and acknowledge yourself for that.

I recently did something that didn’t please that inner critic one little bit.

I ate every piece of Cadbury’s chocolate in the house, setting off that whispering voice in my mind, making it plain that I should be feeling embarrassed and pretty pathetic, so naturally, I did…briefly.  Then I reframed the conversation with myself.

  “So you had a lapse in judgement. So it didn’t feel that great afterwards. So it wasn’t one of your best moments. So what!  Big deal!”  I didn’t habitually scoff every piece of chocolate in sight…the world didn’t come tumbling down. It was all okay and suddenly the inner critic lost its power.

If you’ve had lapses in judgement lately, don’t waste another minute in regret.   Whatever you did is done.   We all do stuff we really wished we hadn’t.   Everybody messes up and you forgive others all the time.  Don’t forget to forgive yourself. 

Keep speaking kindly to yourself; you as much as anyone else deserve a little loving kindness.

2. Reinvent your universe

How daring are you?

Have you allowed mental blocks to control your relationships, your career, your health and peace, your finances? 

What do you dare to believe about yourself?

If you knew, really knew, that your world was shaped by the way you see yourself, and by the beliefs you currently hold, what would you choose to accept about who you are?

If you knew that by changing the inner attitudes you had towards your self you could change the outer experiences in your world, what would you choose?

Reinvent your universe. Begin to believe nothing is impossible for you. And remind yourself of this daily and I mean daily, once every now and then won’t cut it…believe me, I’ve tried that and it honestly doesn’t work.

Acknowledge how strong you are. After all you’ve come this far, you’ve climbed many mountains and overcome all kinds of obstacles and you’re still standing.

Once you choose to see yourself in a new light, you stop worrying about all the things you can’t do and start dreaming about all the things you can.

Waste no more time wondering what a great life could be. Live one.

3. Forget mastery

Think commitment. 

Are you willing to take the time each day and use it in ways that most of us won’t, in order to live the kind of life that most of us never will?

Needing to be a master of all you do creates stress, decreases motivation and makes you less likely to be happy about who you are and what you’re doing.

Think getting better. 

Excellence is reachable, perfection not so much.

Let go of the mirage of perfection and it will no longer weigh you down.

Incredible change is possible when you choose getting-better goals and accept that the only mastery required is of right thinking.  If you want to change your whole world begin with one or two positive thoughts a day.

Pay attention to the flow of thoughts you have and you’ll find, as you focus your mind on being successful by getting better at something, you’ve taken your first step towards a new, more fulfilling life.

You’re aligning yourself with the energies of abundance and you get to experience more well being, a sense of  satisfaction and even more success. It’s one of the lovely things about life.

Don’t make it harder than it need be…crush negativity as soon as you become aware of it, simply by replacing it with something more positive.

4. Spiritually speaking

Changing the thoughts you think and the feelings you feel will change your destiny. Be wise by choosing more positive thoughts and replace old negative beliefs as you become aware of them.

Your inner consciousness is a powerful force and it’s the main reason for your success or failure. And although a single thought hasn’t much power, through persistence and repetition it’s force is magnified and then it can be manifested more easily.

The happiest people feed their mind, their consciousness, with things that are lovely, that are a delight to the soul.

In fact happy people rarely allow negativity to have too much power. They never stop feeling something great is about to happen. They’re smiling at life and life smiles right back.

I hope you can follow in their footsteps.

Stop waiting for things to happen, start creating.  Remember your consciousness creates your reality and you direct your consciousness.

Never stop believing in yourself. 

As always I appreciate you being here and would love your take on crushing that inner negativity and achieving greater success and happiness.  Why not make a difference to someone in the Live Purposefully Now family and leave your ideas and wisdom in the comments below. It’s always great to hear from you.

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Encourage one another.

6 Things To Bear In Mind When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

Every battle is won before it’s ever fought. ~ Sun Tzu

Have you noticed that some people seem to have it all together?

It looks as though they took all the right paths, won the gold prize and every decision they make is leading them to some future great destiny.

But somehow, this isn’t happening for you. 

Don’t feel bad about it. There is something you can do other than continuing to live a tentative, hesitant life.

If you don’t like the results you’re getting, if you simply don’t feel good enough and everything’s going wrong, remember every morning, when you wake up, you get another chance to make things right.

You deserve to live a life where worry isn’t your constant companion. A life where even if some people are critical and less than kind it’s not going to bother you because you understand that you, and only you, control the way you feel.

When you’re not feeling good enough, if your energy has tanked and things aren’t working out, you’re not alone. Fear and insecurity plague even the most successful among us. If you’re ready to set yourself free from things that hamper you and stop you from reaching your true potential bear these things in mind:

1.Perfectionism causes paralysis

Life can be messy and complicated and scary and whilst others might seem to be free of the doubts and fears and worries that you have…they’re really not.

Whether they’re entrepreneurs, writers, musicians or anything else, they have the same doubts and insecurities as you.

When you’re feeling not good enough, the best thing you can do is learn to relax and treat yourself like a human being put on this planet to thrive and enjoy living.  

Bear in mind, success is seen on the outside, but created on the inside. Never undervalue who you are and the power to succeed that lives within.

Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in ‘perfection paralysis’. No one is looking for perfection they’re looking for value. And the best value you can offer is you. Authentically wonderful, messy, scared, imperfectly perfect you.

2.You’re a natural

When you look at yourself can you see a natural? Someone who accomplishes goals easily?

You should.

From the day you were born you began to accomplish goals. You learned to sit up, to walk, to talk and do all kinds of things that became an unconscious part of your daily life.

Nothing’s changed.

Except the way you see yourself.  Stop looking at all the problems in life or the difficulties you face. Stop wondering if you’re good enough, if you have enough to offer.

You do.

Help yourself by putting your mental energy to better use.

Remember  your past accomplishments, the successes and events that brought joy and happiness into your life.  You’ll begin to notice more and more opportunities surrounding you.

Pay more attention to the positive circumstances in life and do what many successful people do…keep a win list. Record your accomplishments, big and small and read them often.

3.Release yourself from the prison of not feeling good enough

No-one can fix your life. No-one can take away your pain and heartache. No-one can improve anything in your life. Only you.

Only you can choose to change what needs to be changed. Only you can decide to do and be the very best you possible. Only you can choose to think positively and move towards your best life. Only you can choose to say’ I’m going to stop telling myself the same old stories that keep me locked in the same old prison’.

Don’t let yourself be persuaded that you’re not good enough and you don’t have what it takes. Ignore the chattering of those who would hold you back. You can develop the will and determinedly focus on your objective until you reach your goal.

You have an awesome power that will get you through every challenge that life throws your way. The power to choose.

4.Make good use of tiny choices

Your destiny doesn’t lie in the stars. It’s not out there. It’s in you. Don’t wait for it to arrive, you’re in charge of your future.

Your destiny lies in your willingness to persist, in every little choice you make, in every step you take.

Remember it’s not what you do every now and then that makes the difference, it’s what you do every day. One tiny choice today might not make a big difference to your tomorrow, but one tiny choice every day for a year can change your life.

If you were to choose an apple over a chocolate bar every day for a year…you’d  see the difference. If you were to choose one little act of organization over procrastination every day for a year…you’d see the difference.

No matter what happens each day, no matter how far away your success seems, never stop expecting, never stop believing that you will make it.

5.Superman isn’t real

The most successful among us aren’t super heroes, donning their capes and dashing off to their next successful mission. They’re human beings like you and me with misgivings and doubts and frailties. And failures. Many, many failures.

Don’t let your misgivings transform you into something less than you are. Don’t let your fear of failure get in the way of your passion for life.

You might not be able to do the same things as someone else, because you’re gifted in a unique, special way.  You have a deep reservoir of talents and abilities and your job is to discover your own special light and manifest your potential, not be a pale imitation of others.

Never let insecurity run your life. Extend as much love, kindness and care to you as you would to others else. You, as much as anyone deserve to live a life of happiness and fulfillment.

The world be a sadder place if the only birds that sang were the ones with the loudest voice.

 6.Spiritually speaking

We forget we live in two worlds simultaneously, the inner world of thoughts and feelings and the outer physical world, so we invest the outer world with an authority it does not have. 

Stop paying attention to what’s happened in the past.  Your present circumstances have absolutely no power other than that which you give them. 

Remember, ‘Every battle is won before it’s ever fought.’  Feeling you’re not good enough doesn’t mean it’s true. Don’t short change yourself with thoughts about who you’re not. A strong, positive mental attitude can create miracles.

Your life is about breaking out of your limited ideas and developing your gifts and talents to live YOUR greatest life. You can reignite your fire and joy for living any time you decide to do so, because every time you don’t feel good enough, you give your power and passion away.

Reclaim it and you’ll discover you’re more than just good enough. You’re awesome.


Encourage one another.


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New Rules: How To Deal With Stress And Anxiety

You want to be happy.

Love-life blooming, work swinging merrily along, money in the bank and all well in your world.

But here you are with a broken heart, bills that don’t stop coming, not enough hours in your day and work demands that are relentless.

It feels like you don’t have a chance in hell of living the life you used to imagine living when you were more carefree and optimistic.

It’s no wonder the twin monsters of stress and anxiety are stealing your peace and joy.

Yes, there are days when things seem to be coming together, but it’s not often enough to make a difference to that underlying anxiety, and somehow you never seem to grasp the magic formula that worked for that one day when everything went your way.

If you can relate to any of this, and I know there are times when I can…you don’t have to splurge on the latest expensive workshop for anxiety or managing stress. 

You have a lot more control than you think.  All you need is a little context, a little shift and some new rules.

1. Build a cathedral

Three masons were chipping chunks of granite.

The first mason, who wasn’t very happy as he chipped away was asked what he was doing. “I’m cutting stone and I hate it.  I can’t wait till it’s time to go home.”

The second mason when asked the same question responded, “I’m hammering away at this block of rock so I can make enough money to buy food for my belly.”

The third mason, pounding away fervently at the granite and taking steps back every now and then to make sure it was the best he could do,  when questioned about his work, stopped looked towards the sky and proudly proclaimed “I’m building a cathedral.”

Three men, different contexts, all doing the same work.

Be a proud cathedral builder in life. Stop every now and then and check that you’re doing your best. And whether you’ve just begun or are halfway towards your goal, be proud of what you’ve accomplished so far.

2. Manage yourself, not your anxiety or stress

Stress and anxiety happen not because of the nature of your work, or your life experiences. They happen because you aren’t managing yourself.

The CEO will complain of stress as will the junior executive, the assistant or the janitor.  And for all of them, if they lost their job…they’d still complain about feeling anxious or stressed.

So it’s not the job.

They aren’t managing their bodies, emotions and life energy in the best way.

Stress happens because we have an inability to manage ourselves.  We aren’t managing our thoughts and feelings, our imagination, or our perspective.  

3. Stop accidental functioning

When you function by accident, not by design everything can cause stress and anxiety. 

If you were in a car and turned the steering wheel in one direction, but the car took off in another, you’d be somewhat anxious. Right? 

And yet here you are, with the most incredible system ever created…YOU…and you have this gigantic problem. 

You are blundering accidentally through life, because you have no control over the most basic of your systems, your mind.

It changes direction every few minutes, because there’s no driver behind the wheel. So should you be lucky enough to arrive at your desired destination it’s totally by chance.

Don’t do this to yourself.

Organize your mind to be focused on the direction of your goals, and aim towards your destiny. Use your most amazing system purposefully and almost anything you wish will happen.

4. Content versus context

If the Dean of a College, or someone else in authority began to dictate what clothes you should wear, what you should eat for breakfast, or that you had to be in bed before 10pm each evening, no doubt you’d react pretty badly.

You’d probably kick up a real fuss and claim suppression of your rights. You might even claim you were being totally disenfranchised.

But when someone outside of you determines how you should feel inside according to the actions they take, or some event or experience does the same, this is disenfranchisement of the most toxic kind.

All done with your willing support.

So stress essentially is caused by our inability to manage our inner situation and our willingness to allow everyone and everything to have an impact on how we think, feel and act.

If you want the quality of your life to change and transform it won’t be because you changed the content of your life, just the context.

Those who life the most joyful lives are not experiencing less challenges than you, but their lives are more magical and beautiful because the context within which they live is different.

They have taken back control of their inner energies and no longer allow other people, or outer events, to put a dent in what has always been an inside job…true and lasting happiness.

5. Final thought

Stress doesn’t need to be managed.  If we managed ourselves it wouldn’t be an issue.


Encourage one another.

Love Elle


4 Essential Tools To Stop Caring What Other People Think About You



I’d like to ask you a couple of simple questions.

What if you could stop caring what other people think about you?

What difference would that make in your world?

Sometimes caring what others think seeps into every area of our life and it has a bigger impact on us than we might think. 

Far too many of us do things, or don’t do things, because we care what other people think. 

Our lives aren’t really our own. We’re not always doing things because we believe in them, but because it’s expected, based on how we think other people see us.

“What would my colleagues think if I voiced my opinion and it was different from theirs?”

“Do these pants make my bum look big?”

“If I change direction at school, in my career, in my life what would those closest to me think or have to say?”

What kind of life do we live when it’s mainly dictated by what other people think?

Especially when you consider life is so short that you don’t have time to live someone else’s life AND do the one thing that makes you unique.

Imagine the possibilities of treasuring your uniqueness. Of never sacrificing who you are or who you want to become because someone else has a different perspective of you.

It’s time to love who you are both within and without as you move forward in life and stop caring what other people think about you.

Never sacrifice who you are, or who you aspire to be, because someone else has a problem with it.

 Instead, learn to love who you are inside and out as you forge ahead to your future.

And here’s 4 essential tools you can use to stop tiptoeing through life because the one thing you want most in the world doesn’t stand a chance unless you give it one.

1. A mental hammer

To hit your need for external validation on the head

The ultimate goal is to create your own reality, not allow the opinions of others to determine who you are and what you want.  Losing yourself in the opinions of others is easy but it makes it much harder to find yourself again.

So stop caring what others think about you and invest time instead in becoming conscious of where the power of the thinking of others plays out in your life. Then you can decide on a new response.

Don’t allow a thought in your head or an emotion in your heart to determine the nature of your life experiences.  It’s time to knock the idea that you need external validation on the head.

You don’t.  You never did.  No-one has the power to decide who you are or what you want unless you hand it over to them.

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2. A magnifying glass

To focus your attention on what matters to YOU!

There’s always someone who won’t understand what you’re trying to say. Always someone who will misinterpret your words.  You have no control over them.

This only matters as much as you think it does.

What matters more is how you see yourself and your life.

Don’t second guess the decisions you make.  Stay true to your core values and be happy that what you’re doing feels right.

If you’re not sure what your are values are. Ask yourself a few questions.

What excites me most in or about life?

What annoys me most in or about life?

If you could share 3 things with others about what excites you most what would you teach?

For instance, I would pick personal and spiritual development as the thing that excites me most about life.  And would choose to share how important this is for the foundation of living the life we want. That it’s the process of the ever expanding potential within us all.

What would you choose?

It may seem simplistic but focusing your attention on deciding what is really important to you prevents others from making that choice for you. Your mind is busy doing what you want it to do and doesn’t have time to care what others think of you!

3. A pocket full of Fertilizer

To grow yourself

A big part of not caring what others think is being comfortable with who you are.  This is hard when other people’s opinions are the deciding factor.

Nobody said it better than  Anais Nin “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Not everyone will see you in your true light. Not everyone will look beyond the mistakes and false starts and when you care too much about what others think you too can’t see your true light.

The truth is that to grow ourselves we have to change. And we change by learning.  Throw yourself into life wholeheartedly, treasuring the uniqueness that is you.

Learning how to spread your wings and fly means stepping outside of your comfort zone.  You and I might be products of our past, but we don’t need to be confined by it.

Be the one you were meant to be.

4. A spotlight

To shine a light on your passion and enthusiasm

The most fundamental responsibility you have is to be joyously happy.  If you are not happy, what will you do with your life?

It doesn’t matter whether your ultimate goal is business success, financial success, greater education or being of service.  You are doing this because deep within is a belief that this will bring you happiness.

Every action, every desire we have springs from the belief that it will make us happy, because this is the nature of who we are.

A couple of days ago I sat in the dentist’s office and listened to his unbridled enthusiasm for something he had ordered that was going to change the way he took care of his patients.  It was a machine, as I understood it with my limited knowledge of dentistry, that allowed him to create his own crowns.  No more waiting weeks for some outside laboratory.

He was like a kid in a candy store.  Totally enthralled and blissed out.   He was filled with passion and enthusiasm and willingly accepted the hours of training he would need.  He could hardly wait.

It was awesome to be connected to this passion and enthusiasm. It lit every fibre of his being and spilled over on to the rest of us.

He could care less what everyone else thought.  To him it was exciting and innovating and he was fired up.

Turn the spotlight onto what lights your spark of enthusiasm and passion and your involvement with them will raise you to a new dimension of experiencing life.

No longer will you be held captive by caring what others think.

5. Final thoughts

It might be hard to go after what you want because you’re so used to caring what other people think about you and that’s okay.

It’s okay to feel stuck.

It’s okay to feel confused. Just don’t stay there.

This is about how you want to feel on a daily basis and it’s a paradox of life that just when you no longer need the validation of others is the time you’ll get it.  Life can be mysterious!

All you need to do is the best you can in the place where you are because life is calling and you must move towards it with as much passion and enthusiasm as you can muster.  This is the basis of living a fulfilled life.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

Why You Need to End That Toxic Relationship Today

It’s been dragging on for far too long. One of you is content, the other is miserable.  The latter is you. You’re not sure how much more of this pretend life you can live. This relationship was over a long time ago. Your partner thinks life is grand. Work, home, eat, watch TV, go to bed, maybe have sex, maybe not. Who cares? They don’t. You walk around like an emotionally void zombie, smiling on demand. Playing happy wife (husband) when you have to. When does it end? Can it? Will it? Should it? Read on to find out what happens when you finally end that toxic relationship.


Many of us stay in loveless relationships because leaving is hard and scary.

I was that person. The unhappy one. I stayed for many reasons.

  • I had nothing else
  • I had nowhere else to go
  • I convinced myself it wasn’t that bad (others had it WAY worse than me!)
  • I’m just being ungrateful for everything I do have
  • How is he going to be able to live without me

Things were bound to get better

Oh I had a list of reasons longer than my arm as to why I should stay. I fought to hold on for longer than I should have because I was sure things were going to get better. We had a fight, we talked about it after, he said sorry. “Babe I love you, sorry, it’s just that….” <insert excuse of the week. After a really bad fight I’d have to write out an email or letter so he would really get it. Pour out my soul. But he always said sorry and I love you. That means things can only get better, right? I held onto hope.  I mean, they couldn’t get worse, could they?

It’s time

Then one day, it was just time. I couldn’t do it any more. It was building up. 6 months of build up. Actually it was longer, maybe 2 years of build up. By the time I was ready to leave, time meant nothing. It didn’t matter how long I’ve been enduring this life. All that mattered was that I was finally leaving it. A life of turmoil, insecurities, lies, volatile love and charades was coming to an end. I didn’t know what was going to be on the other side of this life for me. I was scared out of my fucking tree. That’s what I knew for sure.

Fear will freeze you and make you question your actions.

But I knew it was gonna be scary. It was time to face fear head on and just push. This relationship had to end. There was nothing left in it for me. It was pure poison. There was love. Some love. But too little, and certainly not enough to hang on to any more. He had some good, just not for me.

Much to my surprise….

And then I did it. I packed my stuff, what little I had, and left. I knew there wasn’t going to be any turning back, ever. And I felt this huge wave of relief wash over me. It was like a tsunami, really. Like a tsunami of emotions. I was sad, I was happy, I was angry, I was so fucking mad at him. Why couldn’t he change to suit me? Why couldn’t this work? Why did it have to be like this? I had nothing. Inside or out. I was empty, broke and had nothing to my name. No wait, I had two things, really..

Pride and self confidence take a huge step forward to cheer you on.

And then something else happened. Life opened up for me. Freedom. A freedom I have never known in my whole life. A freedom that called my name, loudly. It wasn’t just a whisper any more. Freedom was yelling at the top of its lungs.  “Iva, it’s about fucking time!” And I embraced life like I never have, ever before. And life was beautiful. And so was I. I wasn’t all those things I had been told for so many years. I was better than all that and I was about to prove all that to myself.

It’s all about me now

I get to do things I’ve always wanted to do and never did, right down to eating cereal for dinner and staying up late and sleeping in on the weekends. I also got to find out who I am. Who I really am. What my purpose and my passion is.  I answer to myself only, and God. I do the best I can with what I have and my best is to help mankind.

Spread love and joy and peace and happiness. That’s what life really is all about.

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10 Clear Signs it Was Time For Me to Wake the Fuck Up.

Have I really been sleeping for all these years? Probably. I mean, maybe not in a complete life coma but pretty close.  I sit here and type this and realize my whole life is a haze, a blur.  All 53 years of it. What on earth have I been doing all this time? But most importantly, why did it take me this long to wake up.

I used to remember hearing people say life begins at 50 and wondered what that meant. I totally get it now. Life really does begin at 50. I went through a whole lotta shit (and good stuff too!!) for the first 50 years of my life. It was colourful to say the least.  And honest to God, I hit 50 and my first thought was “what the fuck am I doing?” It was time to wake up.  I took inventory of my life and these things flashed by. Signs that it was time to wake up.

  1. You’re probably more than halfway through life. This was a big one for me. Omg. More than half of my life is gone. What have I been doing? Well, living actually, but more like learning and preparing me for the next half of my life, I like to think anyway.
  2. There are so many more things I want to do. Travel, write books, speak in public. I had a list as long as my arm and I hadn’t even knocked off a fraction of it. I had to get cracking at that.
  3. I have a purpose and I need to start living it.I wasn’t born to just pay bills and die. No no no, not this girl. Not any of us really, but that’s how we live. We wake up, go to work, pay bills and die. We have so much more to do than that. You know that.
  4. I was stuck and frustrated. I felt this anxiety inside of me that kept poking at me. Almost wanting to scream at me, “hey lady, wake up!! You got shit to do. What on earth are you waiting for”?
  5. I was tired of just existing. I wanted to live. There’s a life to live and I was just existing. There was a life buried in my dream of dreams and I needed to unleash it. Live it, see it, taste it, feel it. It was dying to get out.
  6. There’s a free spirit inside that needs to be freed. I could feel her. Why was I keeping her locked up inside? A spirit inside of me that was crying, I could almost hear her moaning in anguish, wanting to be freed. I had to let her escape and live.
  7. The world needs me. I don’t mean this in an egotistical way. I mean the world is in desperate need of healers, lovers and kind people and I was one of them. Why was I not sharing all that with the world? The world needs me.
  8. I don’t want to die with regrets. I can’t and won’t be 80 years old, lying in my death bed and thinking “damn I wish I would have….”. I don’t want to be that person. I refuse to be that person.
  9. You only get one shot. This is it.Life is not a dress rehearsal. You’re not going to get another chance to do shit if you didn’t do it while you were alive.  Iva, what on earth are you waiting for? Stop pretending and practising. Get out and live.
  10. Being happy is my birthright and it’s time to start being. Happiness has been inside of me all this time, also screaming to get out and be released and experienced. I had been miserable for many many years.It was time to be happy. The time was now.I did whatever I felt I had to do to get to that place of happiness and man, it was worth it.

So much inside of me woke up. There were people to see and love, joy to share, love to spread, smiles to see and a beautiful life to live. At 50 years old, it was time to do it. It was finally time to wake up and I have never been happier in my life, ever. (ok well maybe except the day my kid was born)

Hey you, it’s time to wake the fuck up.

Peace and Love



16 Quotes To Help You Let Go Of The Past



Do you often find your past dragging you down, holding you back, and preventing you from moving forward along your path in life? If so, this collection of quotes should be of some help.

Read them, re-read them, and absorb their lessons. Write them on post-it notes and stick them around your home; create a little book of quotes and read some upon waking up and before going to bed; do anything that reminds you daily of the importance of letting go.


You can’t possibly embrace that new relationship, that new companion, that new career, that new friendship, or that new life you want, while you’re still holding on to the baggage of the last one. Let go… and allow yourself to embrace what is waiting for you right at your feet.– Steve Maraboli


Be simple, don’t carry the baggage of the past, open your hands, and let it go.– Debasish Mridha

It’s hard to be clear about who you are when you are carrying around a bunch of baggage from the past. I’ve learned to let go and move more quickly into the next place.– Angelina Jolie

Letting go is the willingness to change your beliefs in order to bring more peace and joy into your life instead of holding onto beliefs that bring pain and suffering.– Hal Tipper

If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.– C. JoyBell C.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.– Lao Tzu

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.– Ann Landers

Before you can live, a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time, or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth, then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.– Shannon L. Alder

I demolish my bridges behind me…then there is no choice but to move forward.– Fridtjof Nansen

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.– Paulo Coelho

Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival.– Osho

Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.– Daphne Rose Kingma

I eventually came to understand that in harboring the anger, the bitterness and resentment towards those that had hurt me, I was giving the reins of control over to them. Forgiving was not about accepting their words and deeds. Forgiving was about letting go and moving on with my life. In doing so, I had finally set myself free.– Isabel Lopez

It is not the actions of others which trouble us (for those actions are controlled by their governing part), but rather it is our own judgments. Therefore remove those judgments and resolve to let go of your anger, and it will already be gone. How do you let go? By realizing that such actions are not shameful to you.– Marcus Aurelius

Letting go may sound so simple, but rarely is it a one-time thing. Just keep letting go, until one day it’s gone for good.– Eleanor Brownn

Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.– Melody Beattie

For these quotes – and others like them – to be an effective tool for creating change within you, try to remind yourself of them as often as possible. If you do nothing else, bookmark this page so that you can return to it often.

Which of these quotes had the greatest impact on you when reading it? Leave a comment below and let us know which is your favorite.



The Ugly Truth About Life That No One Wants To Tell You


In this short, sharp, snappy article, we’ll explore one of the less talked about sides of life as a living, breathing human being. It is an ‘ugly truth’ that most people prefer not to even consider, let alone face up to and accept.

This truth has everything to do with balance and the two-sided nature of life. You see, we have become a society that is fixated on the quest for all things good – happiness, health, satisfaction, love (along with things many people think are good – wealth, power, beauty). This, however, makes us unwilling to accept anything bad or undesriable.

In actual fact, many things that we associate as being good are simply a lack of something bad; happiness is a lack of sadness, peace is a lack of conflict, contentment is a lack of stress, belief is a lack of doubt, and so on.

What’s more, there tends to be a natural cycle between such things caused by none other than the ebbs and flows of life. Happiness cannot last forever because sadness is a natural reaction to certain events. Peace will eventually give way to conflict, just as belief is shattered by the return of doubt.

Without full spiritual realization and the ascension beyond all that is linked to the individual mind-body, fluctuations between positive and negative will occur until our dying days.

What does this all mean?

It means we needn’t try to run from all our negative emotions and unwelcome circumstances because they are just part of the greater cycle our lives follow. The flow is not always an even oscillation either; both long and short waves of good/bad are possible.

You might go weeks, months, or even years without having too much in the way of bad enter you life and then face a prolonged period of it – and vice versa. Trying to fight against the tide is often a futile exercise.

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So I should just take all the crap that life throws at me?

Kind of, but not exactly.

Bad things will befall you, but you have the power to choose your reaction to any given situation. This power allows you to lessen the intensity with which you feel and express your emotions. You can face up to a particularly difficult time and recognize it for all that it is – a chapter in your life that will come to an end.

Knowing that things will one day get better is, by itself, a powerful shift in your mindset, and one that can help you to cope to the best of your abilities. As difficult as the present might be, you can be 100% positive that the future holds something altogether better for you.

This holds true in both the short and long term. Emotions can come and go in a short space of time which means that even if your day starts off terribly, there is an opportunity for something better to come.

And often, the very knowledge that good follows bad makes you more open to seeing the good and welcoming it into your life.

But surely this means that good times have to end?

Yes, this is also true.

When you’re enjoying a particularly tranquil and pleasant time in your life, be aware that it will come to an end. You may think this knowledge would make such times less enjoyable, but consider it a wake-up call to embrace every single infinitesimal moment in the now.

Understanding that bad will follow good is actually a blessing, not a curse. If you live in denial and neglect to consider the natural flow of life, you will take the good for granted.

If you accept the passing of good into bad, the opposite is true. When you are on a high note, you will cherish every single second of it in the knowledge that it must end. It will force you into the present moment to engage with the world in such an honest and open way.

Is change for the better just a dream then?

Not always.

In some cases we are right to expel certain people or behaviors from our lives where we have such power. Self improvement is a possibility for everyone and a reality for many. We can make changes with the aim of getting the most out of all that is good, while learning to cope and manage with those times that are bad.

This won’t necessarily influence when and how the tides change (although it might), but it will make us appreciate the waves all the more.

Life, after all, is change; it cannot be avoided. As humans, we are far from perfect, but we have the capacity within us to improve our circumstances with the power of mind alone.

We will all make mistakes, we will all fail miserably at something, we will all be faced with times of great anguish. But we can all rise back up, we can all learn from events, and we can all grow and adapt to become better people.

Remember this: sometimes in life you can be the driver, and other times you have to be a passenger. Whichever you happen to be at any given time, know that your attitude makes a big difference to how you experience the entire journey.

10 Daily Habits For An Awesome Life

I felt inspired to put this list of daily habits together after I was feeling a little bit sad for a few days. Yes, that’s right, even positive people like me can feel a little bit down every now and then. But rather than let sadness control me and effect different areas of my life, I sat down and put together a list of positive daily habits that I would follow that would change my mindset, put me back on track and that would also lift my spirit immediately.

10 Daily Habits For An Awesome Life

I wrote down a list of positive habits that had helped me in the past to feel more confident and be more positive. Once I put this list together, I made a conscious habit to follow each one every day and the results were awesome. This is a wonderful list of habits that will help anyone who is feeling a little bit low at the moment or indeed for anyone who wants to take their lives to another positive level altogether.


Wake Up Earlier

By waking up an hour earlier than normal is a total game changer. This extra hour will give you plenty of time to follow each of the awesome daily habits that I highly recommend. Rather than waking up, taking a quick shower before getting dressed and running out of the door every morning. Getting up an hour earlier will give you plenty of time to do all of the following life changing habits. Waking up earlier might seem a little bit difficult at first, but if you start going to bed an hour earlier it will become quite easy.


“Have goals that make you want to jump out of bed every morning.”


Drink More Water

Most people think that they wont get through their day without a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. However, nothing will give you more energy and more focus than starting your day with a glass of refreshing water. Also as an added bonus, not only will you start to feel better, but you may even start look better. Water helps to rehydrate your body from the inside out, and while that includes your organs and muscles, it also includes your skin. Having proper hydration, especially in the morning, can help your skin to have a healthy glow all day long.



Say Positive Affirmations

How you speak to yourself consciously or subconsciously every morning will have a dramatic effect on your mindset. What you tell yourself can have a huge impact on your entire day. I like to start my day by reading out loud some of my favorite quotes. Reading positive quotes in the morning will inspire you to have more belief in yourself, to have more belief in your goals and they will inspire you to take positive action every day. I also like to affirm a few positive affirmations in front of the mirror every morning. This felt really unusual at first, but when I say with total belief “I feel positive, I feel confident, I feel happy” a big smile comes on my face and I stand a little bit taller and I get a wonderful feeling inside.

Here are some examples of powerful affirmations that you can use, but feel free to write down your own powerful daily affirmations.

    • I am feeling happy and enthusiastic about life.
    • My heart is overflowing with joy.
    • Every day in every way, I am becoming more and more successful.
    • I am feeling powerful, confident, energetic, and on top of the world.
    • When I breath, I inhale confidence, positivity and enthusiasm.



30 minutes of exercise in the morning will help to boost your endorphin’s and will put a smile on your face for the rest of the day. Your skin will also glow, as you will feel totally energized from head to toe. You wont get that feeling from drinking a cup of coffee. Have your exercise clothes and workout area prepared from the night before. Don’t wait until you have to get into shape for your holidays before you start to exercise. Start this wonderful habit as soon as possible.




Practicing a few minutes of meditation every morning is a wonderful way of relaxing your mind and helping you to focus on the important things in life. A few minutes of meditation every morning will also help to reduce any anxiety or stress that you might be feeling. Meditation can also help you to be more creative and productive. The list of benefits from meditation is vast and really worth the personal investment.


Write in your Journal

Writing in my journal every day is the most powerful daily habit that I practice. I strongly suggest that you start this wonderful habit as soon as possible. You will be so glad that you did. From writing down what you are grateful for, your plans for the day, your goals and dreams for the future and your thoughts of the present. Journaling is a powerful uplifting habit that can be a real life changer.



Read Your Goals

Do you have a list of your exciting one year goals? If you don’t, I strongly suggest that make this a major priority. When you have a list of goals that inspire you, they can help to totally turn your life around. Knowing were you are heading, and following a careful plan is a totally uplifting feeling. But don’t just write out your goals and forget about them. Read them everyday, and take one action step every day towards achieving them.


Believe In Yourself

When you believe in yourself anything is possible. All of your goals, dreams and your exciting plans for the future all seem very achievable. When you start to believe in your abilities, your strengths and your skills you know that you have the power within you to overcome and accomplish anything that you want to. Don’t wait for others to believe in you, start by having total belief in yourself first. Remember, if anyone can do it you can!



Show More Gratitude

When you start to show more gratitude to the wonderful world around you, you will become a much more happier person, more positive like minded people will be drawn to you, and you will start to feel better about yourself, and more wonderful things will start to show up in your life. I personally write down three things that I am grateful for every morning. Sometimes in our busy lives we forget to stop for a few moments to really enjoy and show more gratitude to the wonderful things in our lives. Everyday take a few minutes to show gratitude for the beautiful sights, sounds, and smells around you, as well as the experiences and the people that you love.


Take Action

If you want long lasting positive change in you life you have to take more action. You cannot just hope and wish for a better life, you have to go out and make it happen. I really hope that you start a few positive habits as soon as possible. Nothing will give me more happiness than to know that you took action to make your life better. I know that you can and I totally believe that you will.