It makes you human

It makes you human

 

You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesn’t make you a ‘negative person’. It makes you human.

– Lori Deschene

Self Esteem – About Outlook

 

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One day not too long ago the employees of a large company in St.Louis ,
Missouri returned from their lunch break and were greeted with a sign
on the front door.
The sign said: “Yesterday the person who has been hindering your
growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral
in the room that has been prepared in the gym.”
At first everyone was sad to hear that one of their colleagues had died,
but after a while they started getting curious about who this person
might be. The excitement grew as the employees arrived at the gym to
pay their last respects.
Everyone wondered: “Who is this person who was hindering my
progress? Well, at least he’s no longer here!”
One by one the employees got closer to the coffin and when they looked
inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood over the coffin,
shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of
their soul.
There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it
could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said:
“There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it
is YOU.”
YOU are the only person who can revolutionize your life.
YOU are the only person who can influence your happiness, your
realization and your success.
YOU are the only person who can help yourself.
Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends
change, when your parents change, when your company changes.
Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting
beliefs, when you realize that YOU ARE the only one responsible for
your life.

Your time is coming soon.

Your time is coming soon.

 

 

I know sometimes you feel like giving up. Every new day there’s seems to be no change in your life. All the troubles of your heart and worries keep on worsening! You wonder why everything is happening to you. You keep on asking yourself why you’re not lucky like other people. You keep on praying to God but so far He hasn’t answered your prayers. Now you have started losing hope. You now think that maybe you were meant to be like that or maybe somebody cursed you. But I tell you what my friend? You weren’t meant to be like that and you weren’t cursed. God is silent but He watches you day and night. He listens to your prayers and He has something special for you. Just stay strong, focused, and hardworking and keep praying to God. Bear it in your minds that you’re not alone in that hard situation, we are all in the same boat. So don’t give up my dear friend. Your time is coming soon.
~Unknown.

Happiness from the simple moments

Happiness from the simple moments

 

I hope you find joy in the little things today. Happiness from the simple moments. There is so much in life to be loved and enjoyed, and I hope you don’t let these times pass you by. Smile and embrace these moments. When you wake up to the sun shining. When you meet someone new. When you read a new book. When you are relaxing in a coffee shop drinking a warm cup of tea. When you get to enjoy fresh watermelon on a beautiful summer day. When you pat a puppy for the first time. When you get an A on your exam. When you fail an exam and realize it really is not the end of the world. When you are partnered with that cute boy/girl in your biology lab. When you visit a new place for the first time, whether it be an entirely new country or the new boutique down the street. When you spend your afternoon browsing for novels in an old bookstore. When a stranger smiles at you on the street. When you spend the evening with your best friend. When you bake cookies with your sister. When you help your family with chores around the house. When you finish the chores and get to play board games or watch a movie with them instead. When you spend the whole morning in the library studying and finally understand what your professor has been talking about this whole semester. When you bake fresh banana bread and your house smells like heaven. When you hike to find an amazing view. When you take your pup for a walk and get to experience their pure joy of discovering new places. When you walk around town in the winter and see all of the beautiful Christmas lights. When a sequel to your favorite book or movie is released. When you get to watch your favorite show. When your favorite song comes on the radio. When someone tells you they love you. When you tell someone you love them. When you are running and it feels like you’re flying. When you meet someone and you really just click. When you wake up early and clean your room. When you stay up late talking to your roommate or best friend. When you cry your eyes out and finally feel better. When you take a long, hot shower and things feel okay again. When you’re cuddled up inside during a thunderstorm. When you are running around in the rain like you’re a kid again. When you achieve one of your goals. When you remember that this life is good and there are so many things to be grateful for. I hope you enjoy your day, and I hope you notice these moments when things are so pure and so good.

don’t sit on the couch and wait for it

don’t sit on the couch and wait for it

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“If you want 2017 to be your year, don’t sit on the couch and wait for it. Go out. Fucking make a change. Smile more. Be excited. Do new things. Clean your apartment. Throw away what you’ve been cluttering. Unfollow negative people on social media. Go to bed early. Wake up early. Be fierce. Don’t gossip. Show more gratitude. Do things that challenge you. Be Brave.”

Tale Of 4 Wives – A motivation for Us all

 

Tale Of 4 Wives - A motivation for Us all

 

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The story goes about a rich man who had four wives at the same time. He loved the 4th wife very much and adorned her with rich robes and the finest delicacies. He also loved his 3rd wife. He was very proud of her and was always showing her off to his friends. But he always feared that she would leave him for another man. He loved his 2nd wife too. She was considerate, and helped him out whenever he was in trouble and needed advice. His 1st wife was a very loyal and capable partner, who never tired of waiting on him and caring for his household. But, sad to say, the merchant did not love her and scarcely even noticed her.

One day he fell ill and was dying. Fearing the loneliness of separation he called his 4th wife and asked her whether she would accompany him since he had lavished so much upon her. “No way!” she replied. The answer sent a dagger to his heart. He then asked the 3rd wife whether she would accompany him in view of the love he had given her. “No ” she replied. “Life is too good over here. I’m going to remarry after you die”. His heart sank! “Perhaps my 2nd wife will not be so cruel”, he thought. So he said to her, “I’ve always relied on your help and you’ve never turned me down. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?” She replied “I’m sorry. This time you are beyond my help! I can only go as far as the cemetery with you.” This crushed him.

Suddenly he heard, “I will live with you. I’ll follow you wherever you go.” He looked up and there standing before him was his 1st wife. She was lean and haggard and looked terribly undernourished. He was terribly grieved at the sight of her and regretted that he hadn’t taken more care of her whilst he had the chance.

There is a moral to this story, and it reveals a truth our ancestors taught in many parables. The 4th wife is like our body. No matter how much time and effort is spent in making it look good, it will never accompany us when we die. The 3rd wife is like our possessions, status and wealth. When we die our possessions are left to others. The 2nd wife is like our family and friends. No matter how much they care for us, they can only accompany us as far as the cemetery when we die. But the 1St wife is like our soul, which cannot be separated from us and which we can easily neglect.

DREAMS…!

I am a dreamer, I dreamed so much that all my dreams got scattered and yes I got shattered but then I realised that it was only the things that really mattered.

I started observing things Minutely,
just because each mistake I did was so Costly
even though I did each and every thing very Honestly.

No one is perfect and I always wanted to do everything with a Logic,
And then my life would be nothing but just a Magic.

I always wanted to be out of reach of any man’s hands, but yes that too safely scheduled in a far away land.

I always dreamed of happiness and then it started becoming my weakness.

I always dreamed a life without any pain,
But I think those dreams kept me sane.

Life was always a bed of cloud, and yes!
I always wanted to make everyone Proud.

I always wanted my life to be like an Icy cream,
But then it was always just a dream.

My Life is a book and God is the Author,
But I keep wandering, is there anyone who really Bother ?

I wish I could say everything I thought ,
N could just share the feeling that I fought.

I always kept on trying and that too without lying,
But still for some or the other thing I was always dying.

Now, in present all I am here, but Love is the only thing that i Fear.

I wish to go to such a Place without leaving any chance for someone to discover my Space and where nobody can follow my trace,
wherein I can take along with me all my Secrets.

I always wanted to spread my Wings,
And I really wish that I could live all my Dreams.

I will definitely create a world,
which will be the world,
away from all the Threats,
Where I will delete all my regrets,
reserving all my happiness .

There will be a place in the world where I will stay alone,
And I will be proud to say that it is the creation of my Own.

Every moment and every age,
Every night and every day I will always be ME,
And I will make sure the same I would BE.

I leave to the Almighty, all the rest,
And yes! I will never ever stop trying my Best !

-Nikita Gore

When you are having a bad moment

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When you are having a bad moment, bad day, bad year, you owe it to yourself to be kind, to be patient, and to be loving. Beating yourself up over mistakes of the past or present doesn’t help you in any way to do better. It’s an act of abuse against yourself, and it will only make you hurt more. Don’t break apart your own soul. Don’t crush your heart into pieces. Please don’t destroy yourself from the inside out. Be gentle with yourself every single second of every moment of every single day. You are learning, you are growing – you will fumble and stumble but I know you can and will rise again. You are worthy of your own attention, care, and forgiveness. If you’ve been treating yourself badly today I really hope that you’ll take this opportunity to no longer speak hate into your life but rather love, hope, healing, and joy.

50 New Year’s Resolution Ideas And How To Achieve Each Of Them.

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  • 1. Get in shape: Losing weight is the top resolution for Americans, and combined with “exercise more” and “stay fit and healthy” it is something that over a third of the population wishes to achieve. It’s easy enough to start an exercise and diet program, but the trick is to find a decent one that will give you steady results and will be easy to stick to in the long run. Have a look at these tricks, hacks, exercisesand mistakes to avoid to make the best our of your resolution.
  • 2. Start eating healthier food, and less food overall: This is usually an extension of the previous resolution. Switching to a healthier diet can be incredibly tricky when we are surrounded by cheap junk food. However, with a good amount of determination and some basic tips you can slowly develop healthier eating habits. Learn to control emotional eating, be aware of reasons for diets to fail.
  • 3. Stop procrastinating: The biggest barrier that keeps most people from reaching their goals is the desire to relax and do something fun instead of working hard. Once you get used to procrastinating it’s difficult to snap yourself out of it, so you’ll need to put in a lot of work to change this bad habit. There are many useful tips out there to find your way to stop procrastinating. There are also tools which can help you achieve this task.
  • 4. Improve your concentration and mental skills: People have been trying to find ways to improve their focus and cognitive capacities for thousands of years, and most ancient civilizations had some combination of mental exercise and herbal medicine to help them reach this goal. Today we can use anything from apps to ancient meditation techniques to boost concentration and hone our mental skills. If you go through with this, you will be able to control your mood, learn faster and have an easier time solving problems.

50 New Year’s Resolution Ideas

  • 5. Meet new people: When we get stuck in a rut, we usually end up staying at home most of the time, missing out on a lot of interesting opportunities for networking and having fun. Meeting new people can be beneficial to your mental well-being and help your career, so don’t be afraid to get out there and make some friends. Overcome your shyness, get some knowledge and go and get to know new and interesting people.
  • 6. Become more active: Some people don’t really have a big weight problem, and they even get some exercise a few times a week, but they just sit around the most of the time at home and at work, which can have a negative effect on their posture and health. In that case, all you need is to find ways of moving around more throughout the day instead of staying hunched over the computer. It’s even more fun if you share your activity with friends and family.
  • 7. Become more confident and take some chances: If you are confident other people notice it, and it is much easier to have your opinions heard, ask people out on dates and get ahead at work. A good dose of self-confidence will help you lead a much happier life overall. Don’t hesitate to get some input on ways to boost your confidence.
  • 8. Earn more money: Even billionaires are always looking for ways to earn more money, and we common folk can definitely use an additional source of income to make life a bit more comfortable. Fortunately there are plenty of options available, like having sidejobs, working as a freelancer or using the internet to your advantage.

 

  • 9. Become more polite: Good manners have always been an important part of a civilized society. They make it easier to connect with others, avoid offending people and will ensure that others perceive you as a good and trustworthy person. So know the etiquette, be prepared or other manners in other countries, deal with rude people in the right way and learn how to say no.
  • 10. Reduce stress: They say that stress is one of the biggest killers out there, and it can have a very destructive effect on your relationships as well as your health. It may be an unavoidable side effect of our hectic modern lifestyles, but it can be effectively managed with the help of useful, unconventional and easy to practice tricks for stress management.
  • 11. Learn to be happier with your life: Even those that are in decent shape, make a good living and have stress under control can still be unhappy. It takes time and patience to learn how to find joy in the little things and not to let problems bring you down.
  • 12. Get more quality sleep: With big TV’s, computers, smartphones, tablets and all sorts of gadgets with glowing lights and beeping alerts, it can be hard to get enough sleep at night. You should be gunning for at least 8 hours of sleep a night, and there are fairly simple ways to achieve this number if you make use of scienceand everday hacks.

 

  • 13. Give up cigarettes: A bit of bad habit that a lot of people don’t know how to kick, smoking will not only endanger your health, but can burn a hole in your wallet as well. Just be prepared to dedicate a lot of will power to giving up cigarettes once and for all.
  • 14. Watch less TV: The average person wastes a lot of time in front of the TV, time that could have been better spent developing skills, learning or keeping your body active. Once you manage to cut down on TV time, you will realize just how long and productive a day can really be.
  • 15. Read more: Books are an excellent way to gain a lot of knowledge on a huge variety of topics, and are also a great exercise for your brain. It’s not that difficult to go through 20 or more booksin a year – you only need to make it a habit, discover your type of books and find a bit of time for reading here and there.
  • 16. Find a significant other: We all need someone to hold at night, talk to and share our deepest secrets with, but finding the right person is a matter of trial and error. We need to go out and get to know a bunch of potential partners before we can find the one that we can get along with really well. Get inspired on your way towards love by these tips on the best places to meet people, asking someone out, and having an amazing and original first date.

 

  • 17. Have better sex: Any healthy relationship requires a good deal of intimacy, and sex can actually help keep us mentally and physically healthy. The idea is to make it a fun and rewarding experience, and this is something that comes with practice and exercise.
  • 18. Become tidier: There are a lot of slobs out there who can’t really get their stuff organized, and a cluttered desk or chaotic home will negatively affect your productivity and even your mood, so it helps to clear the clutter, clean your house and lead a tidier and more organized life.
  • 19. Learn how to dress with style: The way you dress can say a lot about you, and wearing the right clothes can make you seem powerful and confident, which in turn can help you land a job, get promoted, and catch the eye of a lovely guy or girl. No matter if you’re male or female, know the dresscode and live with style.
  • 20. Spend more time with the people that matter: There is just too little time in this life for us to waste it on insincere, duplicitous and toxic people. We should focus on the people who we care aboutdeeply and who care about us, as this is the best way to stay happy.

 

  • 21. Start drinking in moderation or quit drinking altogether: While it is completely safe and healthy to drink one or two servings of an alcoholic beverage of your choice per day, not a lot of people can say that they can follow this rule effectively. Getting your drinking under control has plenty of benefits, but it can be a difficult process.
  • 22. Get out of debt: You can’t really move forward in life if you are weighed down by debt. The road to financial freedom is a rocky one, but it is definitely manageable with a bit of planning and self-restraint. Take a look at these strategies and methods and pay off your debt. You won’t believe how good it will feel.
  • 23. Start saving money: Once you have your debt under control, it’s time to start putting some money aside. A rainy day fund and some extra money that can go towards traveling abroad, fixing up the house or buying a new car are a welcome change of pace. Make use of these hacks and apps to save money efficiently.
  • 24. Learn a new language: Not only will learning a new language help improve your communication skills, it will also look great on your resume and possibly open up some doors for you. These days there are plenty of resources that allow you to learn a language for free and in your spare time.

 

  • 25. Volunteer and give more to charity: To devote your time and energy to helping those in need is a noble gesture and a reward in itself, but it is also an opportunity to meet new people, learn new skills and boost your resume. Here’s how you can find time to volunteer in your busy life.
  • 26. Pick up useful skills or fun hobbies: Just sitting around all day won’t get you anywhere. It is much better to use your free time in a constructive manner and pick up new skills while having fun at the same time. The Future-You will be glad that you did. No matter if you’re interested in communication skills or sports, find out how to learn new skills and hobbies in a short time.
  • 27. Learn to let go of grudges and avoid moping: Times can be hard, and it may take a lot to overcome adversity, but sitting around and moping about it is just counterproductive. If you have a big fight with someone and fall out or get hurt over a small issue, you will only lose a friend or life partner and remain sad and bitter. Forgiveness is a much healthier way to deal with issues that should be left in the past.
  • 28. Adopt a cute pet: There are tons of animal lovers out there that would be great at caring for a pet, but they often overthink things, while some people just rush out and get a pet without understanding the responsibility involved. Be sure you know what you are in for and find a pet that fits your living conditions and lifestyle.

 

  • 29. Become more organized: It doesn’t matter how much time you have on your hands if you can’t manage it properly – you’ll just spend most of the day running around aimlessly. When you get organized there will suddenly be more time to spare and things will start falling into place. Make it a habit, get help from apps and toolsand enjoy your newly found leisure-time.
  • 30. Travel more and see the world: You’ll need to have your finances in order, get the right equipment and invest some time and effort before you consider traveling across the globe, but there are ways of experiencing different cultures and visiting faraway places even on a tighter budget.
  • 31. Learn to cook: Cooking is one of the essential skill that every man and woman should possess. It allows you to save money, eat the food you love just the way you like it and impress dates with lovely meals shared under candlelight. If you go through useful tips, keep your kitchen clean and avoid common mistakes, nothing stands between you an your 3-course-meal.
  • 32. Go see your doctor more often: Staying healthy should be your top priority, but many people seem frighten of doctors and don’t go to the hospital nearly as often as they should, often waiting for their condition to significantly worsen. Regular checkups are a must, no matter how healthy you feel at the moment.

 

  • 33. Reinvent yourself: If you don’t feel quite happy no matter what you do, it is perhaps time to make some serious changes in your life. Reinventing yourself can give you a whole new perspective on life and take you in directions you may never have dreamed were possible.
  • 34. Stop being late all the time: Punctuality is a virtue that is held in high regard in our society. Being on time is a mark of a true professional, a dependable friend and caring partner, so it is a good idea to pick up a few tricks that can help you stay on time.
  • 35. Learn how to be more self-reliant: Technology, a relatively decent government and corporations offering cheap ready-to-eat food and all manner of useful tools – these things have made us somewhat spoiled, and we often get well into adulthood without having what it takes to be independent and self-reliant. These skills are important to learn.
  • 36. Turn your hobby into a career: If we could all manage to marry fun and productivity, and be able to make money doing what we love, we’d be a much more content and well-balanced society. This may not always be possible, but there are cases where a hobby can be turned into a lucrative career.

 

  • 37. Get over an ex: It may be better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved, but it still hurts like crazy. Healing a broken heart is a process that takes time, but there are ways  and tricks to make it through this difficult time without too much pain.
  • 38. Learn to control your emotions: Uncontrolled anger can get you into a lot of trouble, but things like jealousy and prideare destructive in all circumstances. Gaining control over your feelings allows you to keep a level head and think more rationally, even during emotionally charged conflict situations.
  • 39. Start being more responsible: A big part of growing up into a mature adult is the ability to think before making a decision. It is important to take responsibility for ones actions and avoid blaming everything on someone else, just as it is important to protect your family and provide for them.
  • 40. Learn more about art, music, culture etc.: The best way to fit in when talking to a variety of people from different backgrounds is to have a well-rounded education. Topics like art, music, history and culture often baffle people, but they can be easy to comprehend if you spend enough time learning about them using helpful websitesand online courses.
  • 41. Spend less time on social media: Some people might not spend hours in front of the TV, or playing video games, but social media has become a serious addiction among a wide range of demographics. It’s fine to stay in touch with friends and family, but if you consistently spend more than an hour every day on social media, it’s time to make a change.
    • 42. Learn how to defend yourself: Being able to ensure your own safety, and the safety of those you love, is a very important skillset to have. It’s not all about groin kicks and palm strikes, however. You need to learn how to conduct yourself and what kind of behavior to look out for in others.
    • 43. Become more romantic: Romance is often the first casualty in longer, more serious relationships, but it doesn’t have to wither away. A few romantic gestures here and there can keep the passion going for decades. It will be fun, even if you’re not the romantic type.
    • 44. Start remembering important dates: Speaking about romance and keeping a serious relationship fun, you don’t want to keep forgetting birthdays, anniversaries and other important dates. There are plenty of memory tricks that take very little time to master, so you’ll never forget another date again.
    • 45. Become more social: Being a man, or woman, about town has its perks. You get to have fun, meet new people and find out interesting things, but you can also develop leadership skills and learn to work in a team. Even if you are an introvert  or very shy and feel uncomfortable talking to others, there are ways to become a fairly active member of a community.

     

    • 46. Start being more creative: There are times when we get mentally fatigued and our creativity just goes out the window. This is particularly bad if your job or hobby depends on you coming up with fresh ideas and thinking outside the box. As with anything else, there are many ressources that help you spark your creativity in a number of different ways.
    • 47. Start expressing yourself artistically: While some of us are more logical, with a scientific mind, most people still have a bit of a creative spark in them. Expressing yourself in some creative artistic way is a great form of stress relief and helps keep your mind sharp. Some of these activities will also help you stay active and burn some calories. So go in the arts, write, craft, make DIYprojects – whatever makes your soul free.
    • 48. Face your fears and insecurities: You will find this particular point masked beneath other New Year’s resolutions, but fear and insecurity are often the cause of several problems that we want to address. You need to think of it as surviving and controlling your fear rather than overcoming it, and it will enable you to shed off a lot of the insecurities that you have.

     

    • 49. Start writing a book/journal: You’d be surprised to know just how many people out there have an interesting story to tell, but lack the confidence and skill to write everything down. Even if it is just a few random thoughts scribbled daily in a journal, you shouldn’t be afraid to give writing a go with a few tips and tricks.
    • 50. Stick to the good healthy habits you’ve developed: The last, and most important point to mention is that all the positive changes you make have to be permanent. You will need to work on sticking with the good habits you have adopted, until they just become a natural part of who you are. That is how you achieve true self-improvement.

    Well, there you have it – an extensive list of advice, tips and tricks to help you see your New Year’s resolution through and make some long-term changes in your life. I wish you all a Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year.

  • Written by Ivan Dimitrijevic