Destiny determines who enters your life.

Destiny Determines Who Enters Your Life

 

I learned that who doesn’t look for you, doesn’t miss you and who doesn’t miss you doesn’t care for you… That destiny determines who enters your life, but you decide who stays… that the truth hurts only once and a lie every time you remember it. That there are three things in life that leave and never return: words, time and opportunities. Therefore, value whoever values you and don’t treat as a priority whoever treats you as an option.

7 Mantras that Will Stop You from Taking Things Personally

7 Mantras that Will Stop You from Taking Things Personally

People are toxic to be around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them.

That is the truth.  Let it sink in.

What people say and do to you is much more about them, than you.  People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences.  Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them and how they view the world.

Now, I’m not suggesting we should be self-indulged narcissists and ignore all the opinions and commentary we receive from others.  I’m simply saying that incredible amounts of hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives come directly from our tendency to take things personally.  In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinions of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.

The underlying key is to…

Watch Your Response

When something stressful happens in a social situation, what is your response?  Some people jump right into action – but oftentimes immediate action can be harmful.  Others get angry, or sad.  Still others start to feel sorry for themselves… and victimized… and left thinking: “Why can’t other people behave better?”

Responses like these are not healthy or helpful.  In fact, whenever your response lacks a mindful level of acceptance you’re likely taking things too personally.  And you’re not alone.  We all make this mistake sometimes.

If someone does something we disagree with, we tend to interpret this as a personal attack…

  • Our children don’t clean their rooms?  They are purposely defying us!
  • Our significant other doesn’t show affection?  They must not care about us as much as they should!
  • Our coworkers act inconsiderately at work?  They must hate us!
  • Someone hurts us?  Everyone must be out to get us!

Some people even think life itself is personally against them.  But the truth is, almost nothing in life is personal – things happen, or they don’t, and it’s rarely all about anyone specifically.

People have emotional issues they’re dealing with, and it makes them defiant, rude, and thoughtless sometimes.  They are doing the best they can, or they’re not even aware of their issues.  In any case, you can learn not to interpret their behaviors as personal attacks, and instead see them as non-personal encounters (like a dog barking in the distance, or a bumblebee buzzing by) that you can either respond to with a peaceful mindset, or not respond to at all.

Here’s what you need to remember…

Mantras for NOT Taking Things Personally

Like you, I’m only human, and I still take things personally sometimes when I’m in the heat of the moment.  So I’ve implemented a simple strategy to support the practice of watching my response, as I’ve outlined above.  In a nutshell, I proactively remind myself NOT to take things personally.  Anytime I catch myself doing so, I pause and read the following mantras to myself.  Then I take some fresh deep breaths…

  1. You can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal.  Rarely do people do things because of you.  They do things because of them.
  2. You may not be able control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
  3. There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people’s beliefs and behaviors.  The way people treat you is their problem, how you react is yours.
  4. Take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally.  Listen, and then operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
  5. You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough.  You don’t need other people to validate you – you’re already valuable.
  6. If you truly wish to improve your self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, stop allowing other people to be responsible for them.  Stop allowing other people to dominate your emotions.
  7. All the hardest, coldest people you meet were once as soft as a baby.  And that’s the tragedy of living.  So when people are rude, be kind, be mindful, be your best.  Give those around you the “break” that you hope the world will give you on your own “bad day” and you will never, ever regret it.

Afterthoughts

As I am finishing up this post, I am reminded of all the senseless violence we see in our world today.

Please don’t attach yourself to it.

Do your best not to take it personally.

Do your best to let it go – to rise above the hate.

A small group of people may try to build barriers between us, but the rest of us can find a way to fly above them.  Others can try to pin us down with a hundred thousand arms, but in numbers we can find a way to help one another back up.  Yes, there are many of us out there, more than any of us likely realize, who know love is the answer.  People who refuse to stop believing.  People who refuse to trade an eye for an eye.  People who love in a world without conditions, who love into hate, into refusal, with faith, and without fear.

And that gives me hope.

Your turn…

How has “taking things personally” affected your life and relationships?  Do you have any thoughts or insights to share?  We would love to hear from you.  Please leave a reply below.

 

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Youngest Indian single dad to adopt child to tie the knot with Indore girl

Youngest Indian single dad to adopt child to tie the knot with Indore girl

 

Aditya Tiwari, the youngest single parent in the country to adopt a child with special abilities, is finally getting married on July 16. The 28-year-old software engineer is tying the knot with a girl from Indore and will have a unique marriage ceremony.

The marriage ceremony will be held in the city where more than 10,000 homeless people and children from orphanages, more than 1,000 stray and zoo animals will be given a feast.

The guests will receive books and medicines as gifts. Tiwari, who also hails from the city, plans to plant 100 saplings to mark the occasion.

Apart from his immediate family no one else has been invited for the marriage.

“People tend to spend lakhs of rupees on their marriage by hiring disk jockeys, on decorations and lavish menu but I do not want to do the same,” says Tiwari, who adopted one-and half-year-old Binni, who suffers from Down’s syndrome and had a hole in his heart as well. “As it is one of the happiest days of my life, I want to include people who never get any invitations like children from orphanage, homeless and poor people.”

A support group for Down syndrome will be launched by him on the day to create awareness about the disease.

For Tiwari it has been a long struggle to adopt the child as his adoption request was rejected as he was a bachelor and his age. Old norms did not allow single parents below 30 to adopt, but in October last year, the age limit was lowered to 25.

Completing legal formalities for adoption took more than a year and Tiwari received parental rights of the boy in January 2016. After adopting Binni, he decided to call him Avneesh.

“People discouraged me from adopting Avneesh has they said it will be difficult for me to cope with his medical needs. Some even went to extent of saying that no girl would ever marry me,” says Tiwari, who is now busy with the marriage preparations.

The last six months since adopting the boy, have been beautiful for him and his family, he says.

“I took my time in choosing a life partner as I wanted to be sure that even she holds the same love, which I have towards Avneesh. I am glad I found her and she dotes on Aveensh more than I do.”

So you want to be happy?

So you want to be happy?

 

“So you want to be happy? Then stop letting the smallest things ruin your whole entire day. If you’re feeling stressed, ask yourself: Will this matter in a year from now? If yes, then do something about it. If no, then let it go. If you’re bored with your daily routine, do something unexpected, be spontaneous. Never complain about being alone when surrounded by people who actually care about you. Appreciate them. Be grateful. Forget all the drama and let go of all the grudges you’ve been holding. Take a risk for once. Let yourself be happy, because you deserve it. Sending you all a cup of love.”
Brigitte Nicole

Sometimes you are unsatisfied with your life

Sometimes You Are Unsatisfied With Your Life

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Sometimes you are unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life. A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying. But, a pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home. That’s life!! Enjoy yours… If wealth is the secret to happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets. But only poor kids do that. If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded. But those who live simply, sleep soundly. If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages. Live simply. Walk humbly and love genuinely..! All good will come back to you.
Dr. Ben Carson

How long does it take to create an overnight success? For John Hanke it’s taken him 20 years to create Pokémon Go.

How long does it take to create an overnight success? For John Hanke it’s taken him 20 years to create Pokémon Go.

 

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How long does it take to create an overnight success? For John Hanke it’s taken him 20 years to create Pokémon Go.

This week, the Pokémon Go app has broken all records, with 10 million+ downloads in the first week, exceeding Twitter in daily active users, and with higher average user time than Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram & WhatsApp.

How did John Hanke create such a massive overnight craze? Here’s the 10 times he levelled up in his lifetime to reach Pokémon Go:

1st Level up: In 1996, while still a student, John co-created the very first MMO (massively multiplayer online game) called ‘Meridian 59’. He sold the game to 3DO to move on to a bigger passion: mapping the world.

2nd Level up: In 2000, John launched ‘Keyhole’ to come up with a way to link maps with aerial photography, and create the first online, GPS-linked 3D aerial map of the world.

3rd Level up: In 2004, Google bought Keyhole and with John’s help, turned Keyhole into what is now ‘Google Earth’. That’s when John decided to focus at creating GPS-based games.

4th Level up: John ran the Google Geo team from 2004 to 2010, creating Google Maps and Google Street View. During this time, he collected the team that would later create Pokémon Go.

5th Level up: In 2010, John launched Niantic Labs as a start-up funded by Google to create a game layer on maps. John explains why he called it Niantic:

“The Niantic is the name of a whaling ship that came up during the gold rush and through a variety of circumstances got dragged on shore. This happened with other ships, too. Over the years, San Francisco was basically just built over these ships. You could stand on top of them now, and you wouldn’t know it. So it’s this idea that there’s stuff about the world that’s really cool but even though it’s on the Internet, it’s hard to know when you’re actually there.”

6th Level up: In 2012, John then created Niantic’s first geo-based MMO, “ingress”:

John explains: “In the case of Ingress the activity is layered on top of the real world and on your phone. The inspiration was that it was something that I always used to daydream about while I was commuting back and forth from home to Google.”

“I always thought you could make an awesome game using all the Geo data that we have. I watched phones become more and more powerful and I thought the time would come that you could do a really awesome real-world adventure-based game.”

7th Level up: In 2014, Google and the Pokémon Company teamed up for an April Fools’ Day joke, which allowed viewers to find Pokémon creatures on Google maps. It was a viral hit, and got John thinking the idea could be turned into a real game.

8th Level up: John decided to build Pokémon Go on the user-generated meeting points created by players of Ingress, and the most popular became the Pokéstops and gyms in Pokémon Go:

As John says, ”The Pokéstops are submitted by users, so obviously they’re based on places people go. We had essentially two and a half years of people going to all the places where they thought they should be able to play Ingress, so it’s some pretty remote places. There are portals in Antartica and the North Pole, and most points in between.”

9th Level up: John raised $25 million from Google, Nintendo, the Pokémon Company and other investors from Dec 2015 to Feb 2016 to grow a team of 40+ to launch Pokémon Go this year.

10th Level: John and his team launched Pokémon Go on July 6th in USA, Australia and New Zealand. Since its launch, Nintendo’s share price has risen $12 billion, and the app is already generating over $2 million daily in in-app purchases, making it an overnight phenomenon.

The overnight success of Pokémon Go has taken John Hanke 20 years to create. Throughout these 20 years, while he had a big vision of a game layer over the world, he didn’t know what form it would take. At every step, he just focused at his next level up.

At each new level, he had new powers, new team members, and new items in his inventory…

Are you, like John, treating your own entrepreneurial journey like one big MMO?

Keep the end in mind, but focus today on simply levelling up.

At every level, grow your powers, your team, and your luck.

And know it takes many levels to win the game.

“It takes 20 years to make an overnight success.” ~ Eddie Cantor

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Someday you will be faced with the reality of loss.

Someday you will be faced with the reality of loss.

 

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Someday you will be faced with the reality of loss.
And as life goes on, days rolling into nights, it will become clear that you never really stop missing someone special who’s gone, you just learn to live around the gaping hole of their absence. When you lose someone you can’t imagine living without, your heart breaks wide open, and the bad news is you never completely get over the loss. You will never forget them. However, in a backward way, this is also the good news. They will live on in the warmth of your broken heart that doesn’t fully heal back up, and you will continue to grow and experience life, even with your wound. It’s like breaking an ankle that never heals perfectly, and that still hurts when you dance, but you dance anyway with a slight limp, and this limp just adds to the depth of your performance and the authenticity of your character. The people you lose remain a part of you. Remember them and always cherish the good moments spent with them.”

Life is not about wealth

Life is not about wealth

 

Life is not about riding in a BMW or Porsche. It’s about walking on a cold pleasant night, holding hands with your loved one, chatting, murmuring and whispering. Life is not about enjoying Five Star dining. It’s about, enjoying, laughing to your heart’s content, a simple coffee shop with all your friends, talking about everything and nothing. Yes, the joy you get here, you will not get in any of the world’s restaurants. Life is not about purchasing a luxurious huge gift on your wife’s birthday. It’s about the way you hold her in your arms, that one passionate hug and a gentle kiss. The loving words you whisper into her heart and making her feel loved. Life is not about having a night’s stay in an expensive luxury hotel. It’s about falling asleep in the arms of the one you love. Life is not about wearing an expensive couture bridal dress. It’s about saying those special vows and living by them through the good times and hard times. Life is not about wealth, property, money or richness. It’s about friendship, love, family, trust, faith and the little things that bring the biggest miracles into our lives.

~Unknown

I’m the kind of woman

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I’m the woman who prefers one rose instead of a dozen. I’m the kind of woman who would rather stay in on a Friday night than go to a wild party with random strangers. I’m the woman who wouldn’t make you wait on her hand and foot but would do anything to make us happy. I’m the kind of woman who would enjoy having a movie night than going to some fancy restaurant. I’m the woman who would rather stay up all night sharing secrets than going out than getting drunk. I’m the woman who won’t make you hold her bags but would rather hold your hand instead. I’m the woman who will love you more than anyone than anyone can possibly dream of.
~Unknown